So the latest episode of the dating game for me was with a Polish girl named Anna, who after hanging out with her three times I still have no idea how old she is. She could seriously be anywhere from 24 to 32.
That’s an impressive range.
I think the reason I can’t figure it out is that she looks
young, but acts very mature. I’ve
even tried to focus in on her skin and search for wrinkles and found
nothing. (Don’t get me wrong; I’ve
got an extensive range. Probably
22 to 35 for dating. Maybe a
little higher than I’d like to admit for things outside of dating. But it would be nice to know how old
Anna is.)
After some light sleuthing I couldn’t find her
on Facebook, so finding out any background information about her there is out of the question. (What kind of person doesn’t have a Facebook account? Even I have one and I borderline hate
Facebook.) One of the clues I've gathered is that she has nieces and nephews, although that just means she has
an older sister and doesn’t
necessarily mean she’s closer to 30 than 20.
But, despite what this sounds like, I actually wasn't obsessing over her age. (And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with her being
mature. Sadly I’m just not used to
it. It seems like the typical
girls I date are usually a little more on the party girl, immature side. So it was nice being out with a girl
that spent so much time talking about her family and places she’s traveled to.)
Another positive is we were
able to have good conversation for over two hours without any awkward
pauses. A girl I had dated before
was the absolute worst at holding a conversation. At first it was great--
I got to do 90% of the talking, and most of the time it was about
me. But I learned my lesson: that grows tiresome. Turns out
it’s better if a girl can handle doing at least 40% of the conversing.
So it sounds like everything was great, but I didn’t get a
huge romantic vibe from her. (I’m
not sure if it was her maturity that made me think that.) The thing is I don’t really like slutty
girls, but a first date seems so much easier if you’ve already hooked up, that way you already know if the person is interested in you. (I’m well aware how crazy this
sounds.) Lately though I’ve been
starting to wonder if the order of modern day dating has changed. If you’ve already hooked up with a girl
before the first date it seems like this is more conducive for a romantic
date. But, do you want a girl that’s
putting out after only meeting you once?
What a dilemma.
There was
nothing wrong with this girl, and I do want to see her again, but I also didn’t
feel head over heels for her. At
this point the only conclusion I’ve come to is I need the next date to be a
happy hour setting with alcohol involved to jump start some magic. Brunch and coffee can only get you so
far.
It does sadden me to say
that though, because I do sure love my eggs benedict.
Stay tuned…until the next time.
